the gift of caring

Most of us spend our lives trying to escape from self-centeredness.

That's the whole point,the whole challenge, what it is about. Of course, there are some who'll succeed better than others, and those are what might be named, OTHER-CARING.

It does take courage to be an other-carer, for we can't even manage our own lives. And also, the other-carer run the risks of being hurt.
HOWEVER, those who risks make a tremendous discovery: the more things you care about, the more intensely you care, thus the more alive you are.

This capacity, indeed can illuminate any relationship, be it marriage, family, friendship-even the ties of great affection between humans and animals. I do believe that we're born with this gift of caring,
it's just either we choose to allow it to expand or to diminish. It is merely a minute choice , but brings much difference to our lives.

To care, you have to surrender the armour of indifference. You ought to be willing to make the first move. Throw aside your ego and pride, merely.


A conversation between a mother and her young daughter at the seaside, watching the sunset as the tide came in.
An arm of the ocean curled around the base of the dune.

Daughter: Isn't it wonderful? About how much the sea cares for the land?

She was indeed correct, the land was passive, and so it waited.

The lesson is, the willingness to act, to approach, to be absorbed can touch other lives.

[ haven't been able to be an other-carer, but i'm trying to be not so self-centered anymore.

cheers to me(: ]

lynniely